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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why 50/50 on assets plus child support isn’t what you should expect.  Alimony is an injustice to any person.   The marriage is over, but then financially everyone pretends like it isn’t?   [/quote]

Except that one spouse is forced to absorb all the downside of supporting and sacrificing for the other’s career opportunities while the other harvests all the upside. You can’t make it be over unless you have a magical time machine that resets the spouse’s age and opportunities to where they were before they had to stop working. Alimony recognizes the impossibility of that.[/quote]

Why is it always assumed that the “sacrificing” spouse furthered the other spouse’s career? I worked in government, my career trajectory was pretty much set. In my specific situation, my ex was more of a detriment to my career. Not only did I work full time, but I also did most of the cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, etc. Yet I would still hear the same argument about what my spouse “gave up,” when in reality they could have gone back to work at any time during the marriage and chose not to.
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100%.  I actually gave up advancement opportunities and great jobs for my family, but still worked a lot so my ex could be a SAHM.  The posters on here seem to think providing fiscally and working are a vacation from the family instead of the reason a family can exist.  I was unappreciated our entire marriage, never cheated and didn’t micromanage her in any way.  She cheated during the day and it didn’t matter at all in court.   I love my kids, but seeing them is limited, so marriage was the dumbest decision I ever made.  [/quote]

Cheating is abhorrent. I am sorry that she did that to you. I have never and would never cheat. I do not have the capacity for that kind of deception. [/quote]

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