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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a young boomer at 65.

Most of my college friends worked throughout their careers. They are accountants, nurses, journalists, HR pris, teachers, lawyers. They used daycare, [b]they lived close to their jobs.[/b] They had [b]modest houses[/b], sometimes a biweekly cleaning service, and their kids all watched a lot of TV and played with other kids from their schools without a ton of supervision.  There was not a lot of travel sports. Just school sports.

In short we lived much more middle class lives and weren't micromanage the hothouse flowers you are bringing up today.

My DH played it differently. We postponed kids until our [b]early 40s,[/b] doing a[b] bunch of travel and house projects[/b] then one of us switched to part time after they were born. By that time we had power in our jobs and could set up our schedules to suit us.
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You are out of touch.  There are no modest homes close to most people's jobs.

Starting at 40s for kids, statistically that means fewer people even get to have kids as its a huge gamble, and on average kids get to have parents for a much shorter part of their lives and likely won't get any grandparent help with childcare.

You real secret was making more than average and buying when houses were cheap[/quote]

My home is modest and it is close to my job. You need to move away from DC and you’ll find older homes near where you work. I live in eastern Baltimore County in a small 3 bedroom brick home with smallish front and back yards in a neighborhood built in the 50s. I bought it in 2018 for $235k. I’m a single parent and a teacher. [/quote]

Oh I agree, teachers are a great job if you are interested in living in the sticks where housing is cheaper.  But teachers starting out make around $60k -- how do you swing a home mortgage that is 4x your salary and still have money for things like paying for car, medical, etc?

PITI: $1800
Take home after taxes: $3900
EVERYTHING ELSE has to fit into $2000 discretionary (car payments, fuel, groceries, CHILDCARE)
Are you saving anything for emergencies, let alone college?

And your salary is capped at $72k unless you achieve a masters or National Ceritification which costs money and time (things a single parent you don't have).

Do you get child support or government subsidies?[/quote]

I live 20 minutes from downtown Baltimore. Hardly the sticks.

I bought the house with very little down (I forget the name of the special program from teachers, veterans, etc) but I was probably making around $80k back then. Now I’m at $112k. I used to get CS but now both kids are over 18 (they are 19 and 21). One is on college FT and the other is in PT). Both work PT. Teachers in Baltimore City schools earn decent money without National Board Certification (although I’ve considered doing it). [/quote]

Imagine being MC and still railing against systemic issues that affect MC households. 
Also, 112k as a single adult is significant and you dont work 3 months out of the year. GTFOH. 
Taxpayers subsidized your special program. You got CS. And your POV is outdated since your kids at 19 and 21.

So not paying for childcare, making over 100k as a single adult. You are above the median household income for BC and double the individual income for BC. Not city. County.   :roll: [/quote]

So you are assuming I’ve always made this salary? I made significantly less than that and still was able to pay my bills. I had to pay for two kids in daycare for many, many years on a lot less. And my ex never paid what he owed but I didn’t fight it because I didn’t have the money for a lawyer.

Yes, I earn more now but I’m paying for two kids in college while making ends meet. The issue with many UMC families (I tutor for them) is that they have too many expenses and then complain they are poor. No, you don’t need to go on trips for every school break. No, your kids don’t need private trainers for their sports. No, you don’t need new cars every few years. They have spending problems, not income problems. [/quote]

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