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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why 50/50 on assets plus child support isn’t what you should expect.  Alimony is an injustice to any person.   The marriage is over, but then financially everyone pretends like it isn’t?   [/quote]

Except that one spouse is forced to absorb all the downside of supporting and sacrificing for the other’s career opportunities while the other harvests all the upside. You can’t make it be over unless you have a magical time machine that resets the spouse’s age and opportunities to where they were before they had to stop working. Alimony recognizes the impossibility of that.[/quote]

How does Dad get compensated for the time and relationship he gave up with his children?  I think of my own DH who did give up career opportunities when our kids were young to coach their sports teams by limiting travel and work dinners. He had to manage his schedule to do take on his share of pick ups/drop offs/ doc appts. All of this has made him an equal parent to me and the kids turn to both of us when they need stuff as college kids. I think he would have lost a lot if he didn’t put in the work to build this relationship with them (which didn’t actually come naturally to him). I am not unsympathetic to the argument that women who stayed home gave up opportunities for the family and should be acknowledged in a divorce. But how do you calculate the effect on the other spouse?  [/quote]

If you were sharing parenting duties like that, you probably wouldn’t be awarded alimony in a divorce. Alimony is designed to compensate spouses who gave up careers to do unpaid labor at home.[/quote]

If only it was that easy.  Going to court to argue the percentage one contributed to parenting is risky.   It’s too subjective.  The cost of court is too high and the outcome is too unpredictable.   [/quote]

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