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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is much much more common that he has an affair and does not leave. IME it's pretty uncommon that he actually up and leaves.[/quote]

Naive “men” do this. He likely doesn’t know he’s going to get 50% custody, then walk that back. Or have to do something with the kids. He likely doesn’t know divorces take 6-24 mos in average, and can be very $$$ costly if you don’t mediate.

My friend’s husband, who was a work addict and couldn’t deal with family life, thought you could get divorced in one week! [/quote]

Mine thought this too! I think he thought he could just click “me want divorce” and go back to his emails and slides.

When that didn’t happen he started to get energy from litigation and conflict. I think he’s been egged on by an attorney who’s taking advantage of his naivete. He’s easily spent $200k in legal fees and we have no progress to show for it. It’s possible he doesn’t understand the concept of billable hours. [/quote]

I hope you froze and split all assets and bank accounts the minute the separation and divorce started.

A bulldog lawyer with an egotistical, naive client will drag out a divorce for sure. Or even end up in divorce court pissing away more money and time for the same or worse outcomes. [/quote]

STBx thought he could screw me over with a holiday weekend, late Friday night email announcement, but he underestimated me. I was on the phone at 6 am on a Saturday with our financial advisor freezing everything joint and snapshotting all accounts. The  he immediately took over as solely my advisor and moved STBX to someone else at the firm for his individual accounts.

The scary thing right now is STBX’s cash flow- he didn’t understand that he wouldn’t be able to cash out anything joint so he’s litigating on his post-separation salary. He was trying to play fast and loose with late payments for joint bills and stuff until temporary orders caught up with him. [/quote]

He should have access to his 50% or the split.

And depending on the nature of the divorce you can argue one side pay all lawyer fees. [/quote]

Don’t worry, he’s now paying my legal fees. He can have access to the joint stuff if he wants. He just has to file for it. He isn’t because he’s trying to avoid a new financial declaration in the hopes of hiding his new comp package. Unfortunately for him he doesn’t realize that he’ll have to do so to get to a final settlement unless he agrees to mediation. [/quote]

Yeah, idiots think they’re hiding money and files during a divorce and get offended when asked for basic stuff. [/quote]

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