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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - my first preference over a basis or a Trevor would be a bronxville/ Scarsdale/ rye etc. Def open to some of the publics mentioned here also. Basis is a joke, I feel, and also I could have sent him there years ago and saved money if I thought it was up to anything

The standout thing to me is their list is incoherent. Trevor/ LREI, Dwight and basis have only in common that they are relatively easy to get into. The same student who thrives at lrei is not the same student who thrives at basis. I feel like we are just saying it needs to be an easy get for him bc he’s an undesirable student, rather than they had a thoughtful assessment of his profile that we’ve all been discussing for some time. As for the ISEE yes he has taken practice ISEEs and had quite varying results with the first one in high 8s and then when he took it again more variation.

I guess my expectation was that they’d suggest a couple ‘stretches’ eg a fieldston, a packer etc.. maybe a Buckley. And then some mid range - I wouldn’t have been surprised to see LREI in there. But it feels like we are just aiming for the lowest rung without us being prepped for that outcome along the way [/quote]

Buckley is a K-8 and Packer has gotten very competitive.

I’m not sure moving to the burbs is your solution. Have you thought about the lifestyle adjustment and the social impact to your kids. The teen years are hard. I wouldn’t make it worse by forcing an unnecessary move where the kids will likely have less freedom and social outlets. Also, some of those Westchester schools can be real pressure cookers and difficult to navigate socially. I would not make the move just for the schools. Have you asked your kid about the type of school they would like to attend?[/quote]

op - yes they would like a school with a lot of sports and that is academically 'good'. he has expressed interest in the burbs. 
It will be an adjustment but I can't keep throwing huge amounts of money downstream at schools where the ROI is so arbitrary. If I could go back in time i would 100% choose public. Saving and investing that money would have been much smarter IMO than a situation where I will have thrown over half a million dollars at a school who comes up with 'have you thought about basis or dwight' as their best suggestion. I'd have been able to buy him an apartment rather than hoping he can buy it himself in a world [b]where he's gone to dwight and lehigh and anyway[/b] AI has taken all the jobs. [/quote]

I was with you and sympathetic until this point. Now I think you are unhinged and there is just a bit of schadenfreude. Your kid is in 7th grade and you are predicting his life is screwed up because of his K-8? And Lehigh is a perfectly fine school.

Your kid probably takes after you: a total lack of resilience, an inability to think creatively and problem solve, and a lack of work ethic to earn what you deserve (e.g a school better than Dwight/Lehigh) Btw. I have no affiliation to any of these schools and colleges as I am from DC where my child attends a rigorous school and got into their first choice for college. [/quote]

Way to be empathetic [b]while you have a child who cruised through to their top choice college[/b]. Also bravo on the ad hominems and assuming op has no resilience.

Most educated people think it’s crazy to spend 70k a year to wind up at Lehigh. Objectively, it is crazy. Op is right to feel duped. [/quote]

Are you OP sock puppeting? Because you missed the point of my post. Any parent that has a high achieving kid will tell you the same. No kid “cruised through” to their top choice. Mine worked tirelessly and made a lot of sacrifices and I have set high expectations since elementary school. You can’t be a slacker unless you have generational wealth.[/quote]

There are plenty of savants who cruise to a T20 outcome and put in little work (unless you count weed and a loose gf “work”). Maybe your kid wasn’t that bright and you pushed them too hard. [/quote]

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