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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Repeatedly trying to orbit people who perpetually blow you off is deeply creepy. Take a freaking hint.

Put another way: A guy repeatedly asks out a gal. Over and over and over she’s “nice” to his face but then flakes. You’d all tell the guy to stop being so weird, creepy and stalkerish because the gal is CLEARLY not interested in him. That’s literally what you’re all doing repeatedly trying to befriend and orbit people who don’t give a s*** about you.[/quote]
No one is doing this.  Most people on here say they stop inviting people who don't show.  [b]And then are accused of being insensitive to others' mental health or whatever. [/b]  [/quote]

No one said this. People are saying that people don't show up to things for valid reasons, but no one is saying that it is big concern for anyone if you choose not to invite these people to anything again. If you don't want to invite them, don't. Not a problem. [/quote]

The PP you replied to is also misconstruing posts and reality. The suggestion to consider that people may be struggling with something was one to try to help you get over the fact that people didn't show up. Like if someone cuts me off while driving I can either be mad about it and think they're so rude and get angry or I can say hmm maybe they're rushing to the hospital because something bad happened and then wish them well. Your responses are choices, so you can either be mad at the people who flake and then let it ruin your party or you can say hmm they must have something bigger going on and I hope they're ok. Your choice. No one is berating you for not considering people's mental health struggles - it was merely a suggestion so you can chill the eff out about people skipping your party.

Also, DCUM isn't real life. I'm not sure if you're aware of that. I do have people I don't invite to things anymore because they have flaked in the past. If they asked me why they weren't invited to something, I'd tell them. Why is it so hard to have honest conversations with people? And if they're talking about me behind my back and being mad that I don't invite them to things? Ok then. Why would that bother me? I don't know if it's social media or DCUM or something else, but so many of you seem to live in this world where people are judging you or "accusing you" of things. Literally no one is. You've created these fake people who are doing these things, and even if they exist in your actual real life, who cares? If someone is mad at me because I stopped inviting them because they flaked multiple times, I couldn't be less bothered. So give that a whirl.[/quote]

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