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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Repeatedly trying to orbit people who perpetually blow you off is deeply creepy. Take a freaking hint.

Put another way: A guy repeatedly asks out a gal. Over and over and over she’s “nice” to his face but then flakes. You’d all tell the guy to stop being so weird, creepy and stalkerish because the gal is CLEARLY not interested in him. That’s literally what you’re all doing repeatedly trying to befriend and orbit people who don’t give a s*** about you.[/quote]
No one is doing this.  Most people on here say they stop inviting people who don't show.  And then are accused of being insensitive to others' mental health or whatever.   [/quote]

This. They say nobody understands the crisis they are experiencing. It's not "but you are beneath me dahling...." Pick a lane.[/quote]

It's not remotely as deep as you're trying to make it. If certain people have a tendency to flake, stop inviting them to your events if it bothers you, or just make arrangements so that it won't bother you. The solution is to be way less bothered than you are. This is not a huge deal and there are plenty of ways to work around it. I can count one experience in the last 8 years since we've lived in this house (which we built with a focus towards hosting) that someone flaked in a way that caused an issue and it was for an expensively catered party and I was left with two uneaten meals, which we then ate later. I would have preferred to save the hundreds of dollars if I had known they weren't coming, so I just don't invite them to things anymore. (They had previously flaked but it had never really mattered, once it did, I was done). It's really not a tough thing to negotiate. If people are constantly not showing up to your events, then you ought to think about who you're inviting and why.[/quote]

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