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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had this mom friend for a while who would do that. I'd invite her and then instead of saying no she would say yes but then show up very late (like an hour + to a sit down dinner) or cancel last minute. We interacted a lot beyond that due to kids so it felt perpetually hot and cold. At some point I had enough, but I think on some twisted level she DID want to be invited and then treat me carelessly like some sort of power play to show me where I stood.[/quote]

And you affirmed her stature by repeatedly inviting her to things and remaining cordial with her. Why? Why were you so hard up to "befriend" her? Because you lack self-worth or you were trying to use her to social climb?[/quote]

Can we not do this weird DCUM rhetorical move where we somehow try to flip it that the normal person behaving typically is somehow the problem? [/quote]

Washington and by extension this forum is full of creepy and clingy strivers super thirsty to social climb. I guaran-freaking-tee the woman PP was serial inviting to things wasn't some pisspoor apartment dweller mom from her kid's school. What do you wanna bet it was from PP's point of view a high status mom?[/quote]

I have no idea what any of you think when it comes to this stuff because I’m a normal person who just thinks hey, I should invite that family we know to the thing we’re hosting. I’m a teacher and my husband is some business guy, I have zero aspirations of making connections or attaining some kind of status when I am grilling burgers and ask do you want to join us. And when the guy above you bails last second saying “I can’t come I have diarrhea” I don’t think “I’m not in his sphere of status 😓😓” I think “Dave has diarrhea so we need 4 fewer burgers on the grill I guess.” [/quote]
Same here.  Although I'd also think, "wow, Dave is an oversharer."[/quote]

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