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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not sure i understand this complete loss of libido. Isn’t it at least partly driven by the sex not being good and not being worth the effort?  Are all the posters who are totally fine with no sex turning down amazing sex or just tired of going through the motions because it’s just not that great?

I’m really curious about this as i approach my 50s and divorce. I don’t actually know how I feel about sex, I’m definitely right in the middle of menopause, but I always thought my low interest was related to the quality of the sex and low level dislike of the person i was sharing a bed with. If he’d been amazing in bed or a likable person, would I have maintained interest all these years later?

Guess I will have the opportunity to do some research soon, but i still can’t recreate what it might be like to be 5, 10 or 15 years into someone who’s amazing in bed. [/quote]

Meeting a new person and being infatuated with them does powerful things biologically. Really no matter what the age though I’m sure it’s more powerful when we’re young of course but I imagine in the 50s and 60s the adrenaline and those love hormones are still strong.

But that’s not really what we’re talking about. It is tougher when you’ve been with someone 25, 35, 40 years. They might be your best friend and your family…you might live them…but it’s not rare for the sex to ebb.

Sex in decades long relationships coupled with people aging is what we are mostly taking about. [/quote]

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