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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you Asian and your wife white?[/quote]

I was thinking the same thing, just not WASP for the white wife.

I actually agree with the OP based on his updates. The FIL isn’t entitled to his SIL’s money. The FIL gave his daughter an informal loan supporting a bad choice to rack up hundreds of thousands in debt for a low paying field. Either the FIL a. isn’t a long term planner/bad with money, b.is controlling and always wanted something over his daughters head or c.wanted her to marry up and have her husbands family compensate him. The FIL is probably not happy his daughter married an Asian.

FIL is blue collar and doesn’t know how to handle money. He spends lavishly while trying to spend a cent on his kids education if he can get away with it. [/quote]

The wife doesn't get to renege on her word to her parents and keep making one bad choice after another.   I mostly blame her for the situation, and OP also sounds a bit controlling.[/quote]

The FIL obviously KNOWS how to handle money, that's how he became rich and this is why he doesn't pay for his DD family's vacations and restaurant meals! It's normal for adult kids to pay their share once they're earning their own money. My parents certainly are not paying for my meals or vacations and I don't know anyone else who does. We're not super rich, but not super poor either, everyone pays their share, it's not like we go somewhere together every week! [/quote]

How many families do you know where the parents spend lavishly on themselves but refuse to pay for college?[/quote]
How many adults do you know who keep picking degrees that lead to low paying jobs while depending on the men in their lives to subsidize her continued bad choices?  Too many, including OP's wife.[/quote]

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