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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Back with an update, and choosing to ignore the hateful insults hurled at me:

DD called me today to inform me that she received a job offer from the AmeriCorps VISTA program in the city where she lives in (a medium cost of living city in a very cold area). The job is slated to start in two weeks, and pays a pitiful sum of $30k/year for a full-time, 40-hour/week office job.

She then proceeded to beg me for $10k over the phone to help her buy a used car. I refused, and I explained to her YET AGAIN that our family policy is that once young adults graduate college, they must pay for all of their living expenses on their own or live with their parents.  I reminded her that she had the option of walking (~40 min) to her workplace from her house or taking the free public transportation in her city. Of course, at that point, I got a bunch of whining over the phone about how cold it is outside and how no one wants to walk in the cold and snow to work or wait for a bus stop.

It's just infuriating that she keeps begging money for things like a used car, which she should really be able to afford on her own. But of course, all of her terrible decisions -- from overeating junk food leading her to being overweight, to majoring in English, to dropping out of HYPS to attend an Oberlin/Wesleyan-esque school -- have put her in this situation where she won't accept the financial consequences of her actions.

It's just frustrating to see her be so delusional and entitled, and to see her act on this selfish belief that she deserves things that she never earned on her own. Of course, she complains relentlessly about how DH and I (lawyer and doctor, respectively) refuse to help her pay for a car... But that's MY money, not hers.  [/quote]

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