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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be ok with the BIL but not the group of guys. I assume the guys can all shower and dress in their own rooms though. I would allow BIL to sleep over or come early in the morning to shower and do whatever he has to do, and the friends could come over later in the morning to hang out but would not get a dressing/bathroom area or be traipsing around while I'm undressed.

If that's not acceptable then they can all get ready in one of the groomsmen's hotel room.[/quote]
This.

But also, why can’t they hang out and get ready in one of the five hotel rooms they will be staying in? I’m assuming at least one of the guys got in the night before, if not all of them? Why your house, with you and your children there? [/quote]

They don't want the bride and groom to accidentally run into each other. I don't know why people complicate some things so much, or just completely ignore logic. [/quote]

Brides and grooms can avoid seeing each other the day of the wedding all the time. It's not that complicated.[/quote]

This is a good point, the idea that the only way to avoid the bride and groom seeing each other is for the men to leave the hotel makes no sense.

More likely, OP's DH *wants* to host his brother and the groomsmen. Is the DH one of the groomsmen? I would assume, right? This is likely a way for her DH to be more involved and he's trying to do something nice for his brother, but he also realizes it's an imposition on his wife and kids.

If this is what is actually going on, everyone is being a little annoying here. If the DH really wants to host but he's framing it to his wife as "BIL asked, it's up to you" he's being too passive -- if it's something he wants to do, he should tell OP that AND talk through the logistics and figure out a way to make it feasible in their house. If OP realizes her DH wants to do it but her instant reaction is "ugh, no" she could stand to be more flexible.

There are lots of possible solutions for something like this.[/quote]

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