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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's fine advice but meaningless on an individual basis unless someone is in the position of being able to marry a suitable partner before age 30. Like it's perfectly good advice to give to two 25 yr olds with good heads on their shoulders who love each other and have a mature, good relationship.

It's a totally meaningless directive to some college kid who doesn't even have a significant other. You might suggest that they stay open to earlier marriage, and not write it off as "too early" (though for some of them it will be too early, so this is complicated). You might tell them about some of the benefits of early marriage and, IF they are interested, suggest they focus on dating people who share their same goals.

But to simply say "get married young" as blanket advice? Useless. Changes nothing. People aren't delaying marriage because it didn't occur to them, they are delaying marriage because it's hard to meet someone who you both want to marry and who wants to marry you.[/quote]

This. Thank you. I remember being told by a lot of people, including my parents, that "college is where you meet your spouse!" When I graduated single despite being very open to meeting someone, I was afraid I'd never get married because the best opportunity was behind me. It's not helpful advice if it comes down to "have better luck."

I met my husband at 24 and got married at 26. I don't think that was particularly young. I do feel like trying to start a family before we had permanent good jobs and a house was a risk that has given me two awesome kids (avoiding a family history of infertility), and a noticeably lower standard of living than my peers who waited a few years longer. [/quote]

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