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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she close to OP's age? If so, most of her friends in their late 40s are living with their spouse and kids and meanwhile she's living in a house all by herself, cooking for one. Hopefully, her friends and local family include her in holiday things and celebrate her birthday with her. Hopefully, they're the type of friends who will stop over to check on her house when she's out of town for an ice storm, or care for her dog when she travels for work. People in her situation need someone to drive them to a colonoscopy appointment or to the ER. For those who moved here for work and have no siblings or healthy parents nearby, it can be hard to live alone after you've experienced life living with your own family. Humans are social creatures and nothing in our society is set up for women nearing 50 to live alone, much less to go through old age alone. I wish we could all have the Golden Girls life surrounded by beloved friends just down the hall who have your back and share the load of life. Someone who stays up to make sure you got back safely from the airport after that delayed flight. Someone who checks on you and then tells you that you must go to the ER given your symptoms, and thereby saves your life. Someone who is there to hold you when you get a dreaded phone call with terrible news. None of that can happen with a person who isn't living in your home.

I don't think anyone who hasn't been through this has any credibility to opine on what they would do if they were in OP's GF's situation. A[b]ll the smugly married people who say they'd never remarry have no idea how you'll feel when your children grow up and leave to make their own lives and you're completely on your own. 
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I am someone who will never remarry who has commented on this thread. I am 48 (f) and have been divorced for 6 years. You don't know what you are talking about. Many people who are divorced don't want to remarry. It (marriage) was bad the first time...only a stupid person would put themselves into a marriage again. You can have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Cohabitating or remarrying is kind of stupid financially and legally past 40. You are not "buliding a life" at that point. You've made those decisions already. Just enjoying time with someone is all that is desirable. Overcomplicating it like you are in your 20s is completely immature and unecessary. Most divorced people I know share my position. There is a reason remarriage rates have gone done. It is just not worth it. Once is enough.[/quote]

You do you. Plenty of us find meaning in marriage and living with the person we love. Calling is immature and unnecessary is the epitome of imaturity. [/quote]

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