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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both you and your DH were in the wrong OP. It was just dinner, you knew it was MILs bday, and time could have been made. DH should have made sure it was in advance, because all of you knew when her bday was and it was when school was out. I can see why she is upset.

I've learned from this with some of my relatives and no longer expect anything of them. It is what it is.[/quote]

Do you expect too much? I would not expect anyone to go out of their way for my birthday ever as an adult and especially not last minute. That includes my dh and my kids. We only do something on my bday if it's during a weekend. My parents are the same. We always lumped bdays and celebrated whenever convenient for everyone.[/quote]

That’s strange.  Yes, I would and did do something special for my mil, even if it was just a cake and she had dementia and didn’t know.  We do dinner and cake for everyone on their birthday or another day close if it’s an adult.  [/quote]

OP did tell MIL that DH would reach out to schedule something for the rest of the family to attend.  That could still happen "close" to the day.[b]  MIL is mad it didn't happen on her actual bday with 24 hours notice. [/b] That's not reasonable, but OP's DH should have declined from the get-go and then offered firm plans on another date or dates that worked for everyone.[/quote]

No. MIL is mad nobody asked or cared about her birthday.[/quote]

It says right in the first post:  MIL said she couldn't enjoy her day/dinner bc her grandchildren weren't there.  She didn't want to celebrate on another day (although she may have agreed to that if OP's DH had offered that at the very beginning when it was clear attending this dinner was going to be a stretch for them).[/quote]

Yes. What part of that does not sound like someone who is exasperated?[/quote]

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