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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been insulted a bunch. “Insufferable” is one that stands out recently, but it was based on an assumption about me that in fact couldn’t be further from the truth.

I figure, they’re not actually insulting me, they’re insulting a character they dreamed up in their head and projected onto something small I said.

Or they are a dopamine addict who needs a tiny hit, or a paid troll here explicitly to cause fracture in our society, because there’s a lot of that here, too. Whatever the case, insults have become predictable enough that they start to become invisible. Usually when they are directed at me I am able to look right past them. [/quote]

I guarantee there are no paid trolls here calling you insufferable.[/quote]

If you are often insulted on DCUM in response to comments you have made, that's worth some self-reflection.  [/quote]

Nope. If someone calls you out in a way that bothers you a weird amount, THAT is worth self-reflection (as they've likely struck a nerve). But simply getting insulted a lot on here? That is just a function of posting here. I've seen people get attacked on these boards for literally every reason under the sun. People get attacked for being immigrants and attacked for being American. For being working moms or being SAHMs, for being interested in things and for lacking curiosity. People will insult you on here for existing, for breathing. Being insulted on DCUM is just part of being on DCUM, for better or worse.

[b]I can't even think of the "worst thing" someone has said to me on here because after awhile all the angry, insulting posters kind of blur together and you don't really even see their posts.[/b] I am actually far more likely to be bothered by a post insulting someone else, which can trigger protective instincts. But someone insulting me? Eh, whatever, I do not take it seriously at all anymore. [/quote]

It happens so often that the insulting posts blur together?  Yeah, that's definitely the fault of everyone else, and you bear no responsibility at all.

Did you ever see Rounders?  The opening line is (paraphrasing) , "If you sit down at a [poker] table and can't spot the sucker in 30 minutes, you ARE the sucker."

But, whatever you need to tell yourself.  [/quote]

Eh, I believe PP.

I’ve seen people on here insulted for truly benign things. It’s as if some posters are just itching to insult, like their insides are filled with free-floating insults desperately searching for an outlet. It’s really weird sometimes. [/quote]

I see those people too and I think they are possibly quite meek in real life, the under-dogs who get treated badly by someone on a regular basis, this place is like free Gestalt therapy for them, they can punch the pillow and shout "I hate you Daddy" metaphorically when they call someone whatever insult they are throwing around that day.[/quote]

I honestly think this is true for a lot of people. I’ve been on an online community for close to 20 years now. The number of people participating used to be quite high, several hundreds participating regularly, but has now dropped to maybe 50-ish. I have met many of them in real life (certainly not all, but of the 50-ish who are still around, every one of them has been met in person by various people at one point or another, so nobody is an anonymous troll anymore - although there certainly were fake accounts when the community was larger but that is neither here nor there).

And we’re all older now and nobody reaches their late 30s without going through some real ****. For a lot of people it starts earlier than that. Fertility troubles, marriage troubles, divorces, second divorces, health problems, parent and IL health problems, older relative drama in general, children serious health problems, money/unemployment issues, drug abuse and alcoholism. You name it someone’s been through it. There were people who would lash out at everyone and be super rude and aggressive and months later, they’d say their husband or BF moved out months ago or they lost their job or whatever. And there would absolutely be people who were going through tough times and were still pretty normal and didn’t lash out randomly. And this was on a non-anonymous community where people sort of knew each other! The computer/phone screen gives everyone too much anonymity. [/quote]

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