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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Speaking of, this post struck me because I recognized some of my own tendencies which was both scary and a good wake up call. I went to a posh business school and was surrounded by this dynamic, and I am a somewhat type A with very doting parents. I insulated myself from this mostly by choosing the right career (mission driven) the right husband (think tank and ngo do gooder type), the right neighborhood (hippy ish community). [/quote]

These choices actually make it more likely that you are exactly this type of persona and perhaps one of the worst types.

Being "mission-driven" and living around a bunch of do-gooder types just makes it easier for you to be controlling and manipulative. It adds a veneer of "purpose" to a personality trait that is entirely about stroking your own ego.

I'm sure you love advising people on how they should be investing in an electronic cargo bike, they should be composting, they should be watering their yard via a rain barrel system? Do you love to brag about your kid's super nurturing and progressive charter? Or perhaps you are militant about using boundary schools and judge anyone who doesn't. I'm certain you use your do-gooder husband to burnish your progressive bona fides so that you can have the last word in political discussions, and I bet you love being surrounded by beta hippies who will take this all to heart and think you are amazing because you are bringing all your "posh business school" ways to their little hippie haven (except the ones who know you are a poser who actually just realized she could have a lot more power in a less competitive environment where she could run the table). But really the only reason you can afford to be "the best" do-gooder is because I'm betting you and your husband both come from well off families who help finance a very nice lifestyle despite your "mission-driven" job and his "think tank, ngo do-gooder" job.

Be honest: do you two live off your income or do you have investment properties and big portfolios from your previous jobs in the corporate world, plus likely inheritances coming (or already in hand) from wealthy parents?[/quote]

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