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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your first mistake was hosting MIL that soon after giving birth. [/quote]

Oh go F yourself. None of these brand new mothers with their first babies made “mistakes”. The older generation of women took advantage of their cluelessness and vulnerability and it’s atrocious. I posted a few times (MIL hogging the baby and saying out loud she wasn’t going to clean, and pressing us to drive up and visit her so she could show of her new grandchild while I slept on the couch in the living room instead of the guest room) and the reason I “invited her to stay” after the baby was born was because I had NO CLUE. None. Pre baby, it would never cross my mind to tell them NOT to come when they asked to visit or NOT to stay at our home when they were in town. Or that no, I wouldn’t attend a baby shower I’d had months of notice for.

Believe me for the second baby I learned my lesson and that woman did come down. But only after hospital discharge and she didn’t hold the baby a single time. She did laundry, shopped, cooked, and cleaned.  My wonderful husband put the fear of Jesus in her when she assumed she’d be coming to snuggle the baby all week for round 2 and these were the only terms he would allow her to come on.

Mistake , my a**. New moms don’t know anything. But the new grandmas absolutely know better [/quote]

As a grandmother, I did not feel helpless at all and used my words to let my MIL know I didn’t need her help.  We managed to feed ourselves and keep our home clean all by ourselves.  I hate new moms are such helpless martyrs.  And no way would I help a selfish new moms are such like above.  Hire a damn maid.[/quote]

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