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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are your kids?  [/quote]

OP here. All young. From 8.5 years old and under.[/quote]

So you have two school aged kids and the baby, parents who live nearby and will help you, no job, and debt that you need to pay off.  
I don’t know, OP.  I don’t know if you need a divorce, but you do need to get your own stuff together.  There shouldn’t be piles of laundry on your bed.  You should be able to make a meal plan with simple dinners every night so you and your husband aren’t fighting about it.  If you need a break, then ask your parents to watch your kids for a bit.

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OP here. I'm doing the best I can with three kids (possibly 4 if you include the husband).

My oldest spends some time at home for schooling because of medical reasons, so is not away 5 days a week/8 hours a day.

My middle is not school age yet and obviously baby is at home full-time.

I'm exhausted most days and sometimes end up dozing off on the sofa (on the rare occasion I am able to sit for more than 10 minutes).

I know this sounds like a pity party and I'm not intending for it to be. Just trying to provide further insight. I don't know why the other person who helped to create these children should get a pass?

He gets upset with me over the messes in the house and says I just need to address it all, while conveniently leaving out that he should help me address it.

But it's okay, because last night he was up until nearly 5 AM in the basement tinkering with his hobbies.

I went downstairs to feed and change the baby at 4:30 AM and he didn't even notice. Then my middle woke up and climbed into bed with me and stirred the baby, all with him still downstairs.

I had to keep messaging him to go to bed, and eventually he did.. maybe I shouldn't have.. sometimes I let him go just to see if he'll notice or see how long he'll be doing something..[/quote]

He is living the way he is because he knows you will pick up the slack. Why don't you take a vacation for a week and leave him with the kids? I'm pretty sure no one will die while you are gone, but if you are worried, have a neighbor check on them mid-week. Once you see that everyone is still alive, tell him that you will outsource all the things he didn't manage to do, because now he sees how hard it is to complete all those other things.

If he doesn't agree, divorce is the answer. He isn't contributing anything to the current situation anyway, so you won't lose anything by divorce.

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Agree that divorce is the answer but OP also needs to work on her own stupidity. Why did she have multiple kids with this man? She needs to take responsibility for all the mistakes she made, because otherwise she will divorce and then marry a man that is even worse because she has poor judgement.[/quote]

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