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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is literally no such thing as a woman that cheated just once. They cheat or they don't. If they cheat, they sleep with lots.[/quote]

Not true because I’m one of them.

Really there are people out there who have a brief affair, regret it and never do it again.

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agree. It's awful, but two of my close friends made a mistake, got themselves into therapy, and worked through it on their own. Both managed to keep it undiscovered (so far, but it'd be very hard for it to come out now at least for one) and they became better spouses through a lot of hard work. One was enduring intense grief after a loss, the other dealing with a rough patch and opportunity landed in her lap. They both feel a great deal of shame and realize what they almost lost. [/quote]

That is what they you. And what kind of friends are these? [/quote]

Not PP but they're humans. People make mistakes. If you want to disown your friends because they had an affair, go ahead. Some of us don't live in such a black and white world. [/quote]

I just couldn’t imagine myself having that knowledge and choosing to continue to associate with that type of person. I can’t control their lack of integrity, but I can choose my character.[/quote]

I think you have a very simplistic view of the world. My friend who had an affair sits on the boards of multiple nonprofits, spends a lot of her time and money saving animals, is a very caring friend, and also happened to have an affair after years of a tough marriage. Should she have gotten divorced before moving on with someone else? Absolutely. Am I going to stop being friends with her because of what she did? Nope. Cheaters are not a monolith. Some of them are awful people who disrespect their spouses on a bunch of levels and are probably jerks to many people in their lives. Others are good people who made a mistake. Cut them all off if you want, some of us understand that life is more nuanced than you think. Also, statistically speaking, one of your friends has had an affair, you just don't know about it. So consider that - if you can't tell which friend it is, how exactly does cheating make someone a certain kind of person? Hmm...[/quote]

Your friend is a POS. The worst kind. The phony kind that needs to act like a do-Gooder phony charitable person whine out wrecking families, including her own. [/quote]

She probably didn't even admit the affair. Probably said she tripped, fell, and landed on a dick.[/quote]

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