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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It think the long phone call was a way for your friend to keep the friendship alive. I don't think she wants to ditch you, [b]but evidently, she can't handle too many at dinner all at once[/b].

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This- friends have an order and a sequence and you keep some warm and tend to others at different times. Unless you have a ballroom (!!) nobody can entertain at once.

Also, sad to say that reciprocity plays a huge role. Have you hosted her within the last year?

When we do parties we either go big and knock out all "obligations" at once (yes it's currency). When we have an intimate dinner party, we factor in who has invited us, which couples get along and who we genuinely want to see. Sometimes you don't make the cut. I'm sure we don't make the cut often at all but I'm not on SM and my friends are discreet so I don't know and don't care![/quote]

But isn't it insensitive to have a dinner without thr very person who introduced them all and also carry on a long conversation with the OP as if nothing happened. It could cause hurt and embarrassment if the mutual friends mentioned it, which they did. And that embarrassment isn't just for the OP, I'm sure the friend found it awkward as well.[/quote]

OP. I think that is what hurts me most. The fact that she called and spoke for so long and then a few days later has this party with others who were my friends until I introduced them this year.

To the PP, yes, I have hosted her at both my gatherings this year. [/quote]

My college roommate of 4 years got married to my high school friend. This was a few years after college and I had moved to the other side of the country. I flew in for the wedding and our entire friend group from college was in the wedding party. I was… just a guest. Not invited to the bachelorette or anything. I smiled through the wedding but was devastated.

Pulled back and things were not the same. But that was almost 20 years ago. I never think about them anymore![/quote]

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