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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers.  I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum.  I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends.  - mom of teens [/quote]

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We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.[/quote]

You are bananas.  OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged.  I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something.  That is psycho [/quote]

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?[/quote]

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons.  This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David.  I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited).  I just say, no, I’m not.  I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me.  It’s not a big deal.  [/quote]

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.[/quote]

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly. [/quote]

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?[/quote]

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse. [/quote]

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.[/quote]

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OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely. [/quote]

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again. [/quote]

Did you miss the part where OP said she has gone out of her way to include this mom. And that OP says hi and this mom walks right past her and doesn’t say hello back?  [/quote]

DP but you are conflating two separate anecdotes. OP says she has included this mom in plans with the kids a few times in the past (letting her know that other families are taking kids for ice cream at the park after school for instance) and that the mom has been "aloof and noncommittal" about these invites. This is meaningless to me. I don't think inviting a kid from class to an event with other kids from class is going above and beyond -- that just seems normal to me. And an aloof or noncommittal response would not bother me. People often say things like "we'll see if we can make it, thanks for letting us know" to that kind of thing and that seems fine. It seems unreasonable to expect a big, enthusiastic yes every time to something like this.

Separately, the woman (or her kid, more likely) was upset that a few of the moms in class planned a visit during one of these "open gym" Fridays, and the woman has been giving OP the silent treatment since then. This does seem like an overreaction but I feel like we don't really have all the info. I think OP might be overreacting to the woman's behavior (they aren't friends so it doesn't sound like they normally interact a lot, which would make "silent treatment" really not that big of a deal). Or maybe the woman is being really over the top and rude. It's honestly hard to tell based on OP's posts, as OP doesn't seem like the most reliable narrator.[/quote]

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