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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im actually more worried that they won't. I have two college aged daughters and there is essentially no dating in college per their reports. And a family member who teaches at a medical school and residency in a female dominated speciality says that it's noticeable that year-in and year-out that the female medical students and residents don't date as they have a really hard time meeting eligible and educated men.

I wouldn't breathe a word of this to my daughters but it doesn't seem particularly easy  out here. [/quote]

Young women out number men in both Law and Medical school and just college in general. [/quote]

Yes, and many of the male medical students arrive married out of college.  It's noticeable. [/quote]
And the issue is amplified by [b]the fact that the straight males in these programs are in the minority to begin with[/b]. Yes, it's a worry of mine for my DD's (not for my DS's).[/quote]

My brother (gay male) has been the head of a large residency program for almost 20 years and is a mentor and friend to the residents. He watches this play out year over year. An abundance of amazing female residency grads, lots of dating frustration as they find themselves age 29, finally ready to date and unable to find any men who are remotely at their educational or professional level.  His advice to me (I have daughters) was to encourage them to actively pursue dating along the way (college, 20s, etc) if finding a male partner is a goal. [/quote]

Straight males are in the minority in law school and medical school?  Not my experience at all but it may have changed.[/quote]

Was referencing the PP before that.  I confirm what you wrote about the amazing female residents.  It's extremely difficult for them to find a partner after finishing residency, I've seen this so many times.  The work place is bad for dating.  Also additional advice for daughters in pre-med and med;  it's good to test your potential partner during this time, if they can't handle what you do now, they won't be able to handle the demands on you and your career later.  Don't settle!  [/quote]

Most find their partner in med school then match together. Others meet a match in residency. [/quote]

Just FYI: It is incredibly difficult, to match together, and severely limits your choices depending on competitiveness of specialty (and also varying from year to year with some unpredictability).   Highly recommend against this as a plan.  However, I know several couples who managed apart (as bf, gf) during residency, and still happily married now well over a decade later.  It’s a good test;  if they’d become seriously interested in someone else, it would have happened sooner or later, and was not meant to be. Also know those who did not go through the match the same year or had met much earlier or later. 
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A large group of my T5-med school classmates did couples match back in 2002. Our med school sent 90% of its grads to residencies at T20 level med schools or the like in medicine (mayo clinic, etc). Couples match did not seem to hinder them at all. There were also resident transfers when med student would date and then get engaged to residents. It happens when 22-28yo are all working 80hrs together; programs want happy residents and even the top ones try to help make it work.[/quote]

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