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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not something I'm worried about, but interestingly, for both of my daughters that is part of their "plan."

They have a lot of single older cousins so maybe that has influenced them plus the general societal angst about how hard it is to find someone and how horrible dating is in this day and age. [/quote]

It’s also part of my daughter’s ‘plan’ which I find appalling and hysterical in equal parts. The girls is a planner and goal oriented so more power to her. [/quote]

You raised an idiot.

No daughter's goal should be to marry right. It should be to take care of themselves.[/quote]

DP here. It should be both. Girls should take care of themselves and also seek to marry equals. No scrubs. My girls know this for sure. [/quote]

100%

I do hope my DD gets married someday, not in college. But starting to date someone in college who you later commit to for marriage is not a bad thing. It’s not too early to date in college. All those opposed to finding the right person in college, do you forbid your kid to date in college? If not and they do find the one, will you force them to break up just bc it doesn’t fit your plan?  I find these comments very odd. 
You can still figure out who you are and date at the same time. And it takes a lifetime to figure out who you are and that evolves. I don’t want my DD waiting decades.

If they meet on the younger side, I think they grow together. When you are older, there are so many restrictions and requirements.

I agree who they marry is the most important decision they make.  And they will never have more free time than they do in college.

And dating helps you figure out who you are and what you want.

I’d even be fine if she marries her HS sweetheart. I wouldn’t have her choose her college based on him but if they stay together, I’m good with that.  There’s no benefit to dating lots of people just for the sake of it. [/quote]

Are they in college together now?[/quote]

They’re HS seniors. 
He’s not a factor at all in her college apps/choice. No idea where he’s applying.

Agree with the comment about marrying into debt. Good point. My DD will not have any debt after college/grad school and would definitely be rough if she married debt.

Also agree about going to a school with intellectual peers- esp for a DD. [/quote]

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