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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I am a person whose calendar is now completely booked till Jan 10th, 2026.   Then I am unavailable from 1st Feb to 10th April.

I have many friends who are super busy with family, social obligations, travel, medical treatments...and we all are empty nesters in our 50s and 60s.

My unavailability should not inconvenience anyone. It is what it is.

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I am so curious about this.  Can you share what you are doing each weekend (in a general sense?)

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Not PP but this coming weekend is our last free one of 2025. After that we have:
- brewery day with adult friends
- out of town for sports event
- out of town with college girlfriends
- birthday parties Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (for kids)
- Thanksgiving weekend, out of town
- hosting holiday brunch at our house
- husband out of town with college guy friends 
- weekends of Christmas break, so lots of activities
- adult birthday party (first weekend in January)
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- brewery day with adult friends. [b]--you can't do anything Fri or Sun?[/b]
- out of town for sports event  --for all 3 days?
- out of town with college girlfriends
- birthday parties Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (for kids) [b]--you both go to all the kids' parties?[/b]
- Thanksgiving weekend, out of town
- hosting holiday brunch at our house. [b]--you can't do anything Friday or Sunday?[/b]
- husband out of town with college guy friends  [b]--you can't do anything Fri/Sat/Sun when husband is out of town?[/b]
- weekends of Christmas break, so lots of activities
- adult birthday party (first weekend in January)[b]

This makes it very clear that every person's definition of "weekends are booked" are completely different.  In my world, almost everyone of these weekends above would be open for a friend who asked me "can you hang out?". I view a weekend as having 5 slots: Friday evening, Sat day and evening, Sun day and evening and with 2 parents there are 10 slots.  A weekend is not "booked" unless all 5 spots are full for both parents.

Not a dig but it just makes a lot more sense to some of us who can't understand why someone would say "I have no free weekend for 3 months."  If a free weekend means "a weekend when neither spouse has anything going on Fri-Sun" I can see how this would be. [/quote]

I generally stay away from people who (1) can't understand things like this and (2) ask questions like the ones in bold. If you can't take "my weekend is booked" and need to drill down into how I'm using my time in order to show that actually, I'm not booked every minute of every day, then you're not really good friend material, are you?[/quote]

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