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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a Catholic family, and if I were attending the funeral of my sibling's little child, I would just take communion even though I don't believe.

I would consider it my duty to do WHATEVER I could to minimize stress to everybody in the family.  I would think taking communion and keeping my mouth shut about it were the LEAST I could do.  I can't imagine being so self-absorbed as to make a thread about myself and whether I should take communion at my tiny niece's funeral.

If they wanted you to stand in a circle and worship the moon goddess, that would be your compassionate responsibility to do it, OP.  These parents lost their four year old!

If there is a god, I think he would also want you to just shut up and take the communion, if there was even a modicum of a chance that not doing so would cause stress to anyone else present, or divert an iota of thought/attention away from the memory of this poor little girl.[/quote]

[b]What it seems that you don't know, is that in Catholicism, it's a sin to take communion without being in a state of grace,[/b] which means having been to confession recently and not having committed any mortal sins (like leaving Catholicism - the "one true faith") in the meantime.[/quote]

I DO know this.  I went to Catholic school from K-12.  I was raised in a "very" Catholic family.

I am not Catholic today.  I have rejected the church and all it stands for.  I am an aetheist.

But here's the thing: my family are Catholics and it means a lot to them.  Why on earth would I choose not to do something (ie, take communion even though I have no belief) that would possibly cause MORE stress and pain to anybody present at the FUNERAL OF A FOUR YEAR OLD GIRL.  My little ideas about religion are not what would have been important in that scenario.  I think OP was selfish to make this about herself and avoid communion at a time like this.

I think the funeral of a little child is probably the only thing that would ever get me inside a Catholic church again.  If it were MY niece or nephew, I would be there to support my brother who had just lost his tiny daughter, and I would keep my mouth shut about my thoughts on the religion.  I would take the communion and do whatever else I had to do to keep from drawing attention to myself at the FUNERAL OF A FOUR YEAR OLD GIRL.

On a normal day, sure.  I would refuse communion and happily tell people why.  But not at the funeral of my sibling's four year old child.

As a survivor of 13 years of Catholic school, I do think your Jesus would want OP to just quietly take the communion and do anything else it took to bring comfort/avoid causing any extra tension in the situation.  [/quote]

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