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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Had you left the stove on with the pot still simmering on it but not told him OR
 
Did he come downstairs to a pot that was not on the stove and full of a murky, dirty looking liquid?

Was he cleaning up the kitchen?

I know everyone thinks that every husband is an abuser and psychobabble gets thrown around - and you have written this in a way that ensures that happens. Would he write it the same way? Without being a fly on the wall, I take all these my husband is the worst human on the planet and I am an absolute saint who never does anything wrong but he treats me like he is Satan himself posts with a gran of salt.

When men complain about abusive wives, the responses are always that only abusers complain about being abused and that the one saying they are abused is the abuser and is responsible. [/quote]

It was on the stove cooling after I had just turned it ofd. I believe he honestly did not know I was making stock and so he dumped it out. That is frustrating but easy to forgive. The part I found infuriating was his reaction.[/quote]

And now that I’m thinking about it more, the fact that he said “[b]you act like[/b] I did this to purposely hurt you” was just so out of left field at the time, because that never even entered my mind. I was hought he did it by mistake. And yes I was still upset that my stock was thrown down the sink.

But now I’m like, did he actually do that on purpose?? Otherwise why would he even say that?[/quote]

You thought he did it by mistake but you still got mad at him? That's why he said YOU ACT LIKE he did it on purpose.

When a stranger accidentally steps on your toe, do you get mad at them? Or do you chalk it up to a mistake and let it go? Because it doesn't sound like you gave your husband the benefit of the doubt here. If you thought he did it on accident why did you ask him why he did it?[/quote]

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