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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women are expected to work like they don’t have kids and raise kids like they don’t work. Now we’re expected to maintain friendships as if we don’t have kids? Hard pass. Moms don’t need that kind of pressure, and if you can’t understand kids are part of the picture for a few years, no need to continue the friendship. [/quote]

Everyone knows this. OP got a pity invite because her friends didn’t want to drop her, but they don’t expect her to show up with the toddler to their group lunch. They politely ask just to keep her in the loop and her job is to politely decline and eventually everyone will move on.[/quote]

If friendship is equivalent to putting on airs and feigning your version of politeness, this just seems sad.

For all of you who don’t want your friends to bring their kids, have you considered just making your invite clear of that intention rather than completely dropping your friend when they bring their kid???? [/quote]

The rest of us make plans for our kids. If you’re in such a peculiar situation that you have no other friends, spouse, neighbor, parents, inlaws, sibling, or anyone else in your life who can watch your toddler for an hour, most of us can’t relate to that. Never being able to have lunch without a toddler is odd. Everyone else shouldn’t need to adjust to accommodate this unusual issue.[/quote]

You are lucky if you have family to help.  My parents refused to help despite living close, my MIL was in a nursing home and my FIL who'd never help, lived cross country.  Our siblings don't live close but aren't the aunt/uncle types.

Whats the big deal?  Mine are older but I have no issue with friends bringing their kids.[/quote]
That's you. Some people like to spend time with their friends alone, or with other adults not having to worry about children. [/quote]

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