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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"It is really up to the couple to decide this. I have no issues with someone being just a "non working for pay" person in a couple. If it makes the couple happy and everyone is okay with it, why not? You truly don't know what someone is going thru. They might have a hidden illness that makes daily life stressful and being "at home" helps them manage it. As long as the family is not on welfare it is really none of my business."

But you yourself say this is acceptable only because the "kept" person has an illness that prevents them from being able to contribute with money they earn through working. Nobody here seems to be saying that unhealthy people should be expected to pull their own weight. But why is an otherwise healthy and capable adult who has no caregiver needs not contributing? How is this not going to create a caregiver to dependent dynamic in what should be a partnership of two equals? [/quote]

There are more dimensions to life than a paycheck. Many SAHMs provide more financial value in equivalent unpaid labor costs than they would working. They also may be the factor that is responsible for DH being successful in his career. Not having an equivalent paycheck doesn’t mean they are not equally contributing to the household in different areas.

Personally I have no desire to SAH because it’s not a fit for my personality and I personally don’t want to assume the risk of being 100% financially dependent on my husband. But other people have different priorities. Not recognizing the value and importance of SAHPs harms women and families.[/quote]

Same. I recognize the value SAHM provide to their family, but I don't want that life for myself. My husband is controlling, manipulative, and more so it'd be suicide to make myself financially vulnerable to him. [/quote]

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