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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't take him to LA or out of state but would consider a day trip or something local with him.

I woukd jump at the opportunity to spend time with my teen but wouldn't allow myself to be manipulated.

I would turn it around and point out how unfair to his siblings it would be if I took him on a trip and didn't take the rest of the family.

Ask him what he's interested?  Maybe he likes anime, take him to an anime conference.   Maybe he likes tech, take him to a tech event.  Please do something surrounding his interest.    I have a kid who likes collecting shark teeth.  Do that with him.  [/quote]

“Manipulated.” Some of you have shockingly poor emotional skills.[/quote]

If I travel for work is my spouse entitled to a trip because I got to go?

Travel sports or travel to academic events are no different than work travel imo.  This kid deserves one on one time but doesn't get arbitrary travel.[/quote]

That’s right because he hasn’t “earned” it. How sad that only kids who produce for their parents get money spent on them. [/quote]

Oh come on, it really isn’t typical for a family to take one kid on a vacation somewhere and leave siblings at home. Demanding that is just being a spoiled brat. Trips with a parent for contests are different.[/quote]

Every time one of these parent takes a kid on a trip out of state and pays for their hotel, food, sports stuff, it is a one-on-one mini trip. Add these up and these two other kids are getting time and money spent on them. The other kids gets nothing because he doesn’t want to do these sports. No wonder he’s asking for a similar trip. [/quote]

But it’s not a similar trip. And this comparing how much money has been spent on each kid would absolutely not fly with me. I’d shut it down with a quickness. One of my kids has a speech impediment and we have spent thousands trying to fix it. If my other kid asked for monetary compensation to equal this spend, I’d laugh in their face. They don’t have the impediment—that’s their “reward.”[/quote]

And any sane person would laugh in your face for equating spending money on a child for a medical or developmental issue to funding an expensive hobby the child wants to pursue.[/quote]

But the kid doesn’t have a hobby. They just look at what others do and whine.[/quote]

You mean he doesn’t have a hobby that op deems worthy. Camping and travel are both legitimate hobbies (and ones that are far more likely to be sustained in adulthood than gymnastics).[/quote]

i think travel is really a hobby for adults. A kid can't just do their own travel thing, they get taken where the parents choose to go. So no, I don't think a 15 year old's hobby can be travel. Also there's no indication that the kid has a particular love of travel. They just feel hard done by and want to go on a trip. [/quote]

Tell that to my 10 year old who has a passion for travel and already takes a major role in suggesting locations, learning about the history/culture of different places, and helping to plan/research activities for every trip we take- from short weekend jaunts to international vacations.

Obviously we, the parents, have ultimate say/ veto power since we’re paying for everything but the same is true for any kid’s hobby or activity.[/quote]

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