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[quote=Anonymous]OP, your wife is resentful about something. You are blaming her but she is blaming you too, gaurantee. As someone else said, even a LD spouse knows sex is important. She is withholding. Either she is a cold bitch (doubtful and if so, you need to ask yourself why you married her) or you guys have issues. I'm betting those issues are 50% on you and 50% on her. That's usually how it shakes out.

In my case, DH was the withholder. He is very passive aggressive and holds grudges but pretends not to. Over time that ate away at me and I didn't do anything to address our issues or lack of sex. Frankly, I didn't want sex from him and took care of my own needs regularly. We are in counseling and have uncovered, after months of work, a lot of what we've both contributed to our broken marriage and broken sex life. Counseling is really helpful. Turns out I was withholding in other ways that contributed.

Also recommend the book "Intimacy and Desire." It is HARD to keep intimacy and a fun sex life year after year in a relationship. People do it, but from your posts, you seem to think there are a ton of married people who have active, healthy sex lives during every stage of their marriage. This is not reality. You can get to that point, but it takes work and it doesn't just fall into your lap. You indicate the solution would have been marrying someone else. I don't think that's the case. [/quote]

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