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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We use it based on teachers.  My DS took Spanish 5 and got 100% on every single assignment.  I doubt this given his track record in past years.  So we hired the tutor knowing that when he goes to AP Spanish, with the department head teaching, it will be a wake-up call.

I think it's fair to have a tutor if your child is in public school.  Resources are skimpy and not all public school teachers, as hard as they try and even if they are superb, are able to help every student with proper feedbacks.[/quote]

+1.

To the people that are trying to stigmatize tutoring: shame on you.  I only care if the kid learned something. Does it matter how?

I really hate the attitude: my kid is so smart he doesn't need help and finds every class he took easy.  [/quote]

Why?  It’s the truth. Many kids are really smart and don’t need any help.   You seriously have a problem with that statement?

My son has a learning disability and had tutors off and on.   My daughter’s not too bright friends have tutors to help pass their classes.  My daughter does fine at her college level classes.  I’m not going to get a tutor to try and push her into AP classes.  She’s right where she should be ability wise.

What happens to these kids who have tutors with every single class and a tutor editing every single paper?  [/quote]

Sorry, but this really rubs me the wrong way. My kids and their friends have tutors to stay ahead on their accelerated tracks. Not because they couldn't hack it without tutors. But to make sure it's an easy A and stress-free.

I think this thread is a confrontation of two cultures. One that views tutoring as beneficial for intellectual rigor, addressing certain notions not taught in schools, and ensuring that kids do well in the most advanced classes; and one that cannot let go of the outdated notion that tutoring is somehow shameful, only for the kids who struggle and won't come to anything, and that if you use it to get ahead, you're somehow cheating and have poor work ethic.

Tutoring is WORK. My kids build work ethic when they do their homework the tutor gives them and when they attend their sessions. The tutors never do the school homework FOR them! That would defeat the entire purpose of the instruction! I used to tutor them myself, when they were little. But now they're in high school, and my derivatives are rusty, I prefer to pay someone who does calculus every day :-)

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" . . . and one that cannot let go of the outdated notion that tutoring is somehow shameful, only for the kids who struggle and won't come to anything, and that if you use it to get ahead, you're somehow cheating and have poor work ethic."

I don't think anyone said this, the statement mischaracterizes the argument.  I see it more as social and economic privilege, you can help your kids get to a place educationally that others can't because they lack the resources you have.  But kids that rely upon tutoring to develop knowledge that other kids possess without intensive tutoring will have to be able to eventually learn without them, there is an inevitable transition.

I work as an attorney, we have no tutors.[/quote]

I’m an exec. We tutor others and get tutored constantly, and have all the way through our careers. When you are an elite it’s called mentoring, not tutoring,[/quote]

That’s not a good analogy.

Tutoring is not similar to executive coaching. It is more like at times you don’t understand your job and need outside help to explain it to you and show you how to do it. There are other executives your company could have hired who do not need outside help and they thought you were one of them. [/quote]

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