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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - DH has one of those big jobs (think big law/finance) where they work a lot of hours. So it’s very hard for me to even rely on him not being pulled into a call or emergency. He helps more on the weekends but during the week it’s usually all me. [/quote]

I mean....what do you want us to say?   You need to make changes somewhere.  Quit your job.  Tell DH he needs a new one.  Go part time.  Hire help.  [/quote]

This. I get frustrated with OPs like you (and they are common) because the reality is your situation is not that unique or difficult. Every multiple kid family has to figure out the right combination of job time, parenting time, outsourcing, family help, kid activities that works for them financially and logistically.

I am an attorney and my DH has a busy job that he values so I don't work big law. We don't have family around. We use babysitters when we need to, outsource some household tasks to free up time, and drive our kids places ourselves or carpool. Also, we only had two kids and limit activities more than some other families. I have also accepted that this phase of life is just kind of hard and I will be tired and feel like I am running around with my hair on fire sometime. My kids rooms are kind of a mess and I do not find enough time to declutter.

You are extremely fortunate in that you have a lot of money, which can solve many of your issues. Maybe get an au pair? If you don't wish to use money to solve problems or get an au pair, one of you probably needs to change something about your job, your DH needs to do more (I seriously doubt all of his "emergencies" are related to), or you need to sack up and realize you signed up for this by having multiple kids with someone who does not seem interested in being a real partner. [/quote]

Agree, this is the reality of so many parents. [/quote]

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