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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The whole appeal of being dominated/taken roughly is the idea that you’re just so hot and irresistible that the man is just completely overcome with raw animal lust and cannot control himself around you.  Thus having to spell this out for a partner kills the fantasy.  At the same time, decent men - reasonably and correctly - are going to err on the side of NOT raping you, so it’s a no-win proposition for both parties.[/quote]

The whole idea of wanting to be dominated is to experience relaxation before the act from feeling helpless and being spanked. Then I need slight pain, being tied up, disoriented in space to focus on my responses, and to get deeper pressure to O. It’s very physical to me and specific and it was always like that. I only had 5 partners in a lifetime because few men can do this to women usually they are hesitant 
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And that's what people are trying to tell you... that having such a very limited, fearful sexuality is not really anything to brag about and is pretty sad. If you actually worked on unleashing some genuine sexuality, not having to feel "overpowered" by some man in order to get yourself to feel an O, then you could experience a much wider, more open range of things. There's something so cringe about the pretense and fakeness of a man and a woman performing some fake scenario in which he pins her down, name calls her, etc, and it's all because she's too chickens**t to just own her sexuality and admit she's a sexual person. And everyone is playing some disingenuous role, likely something they did see scripted out in porn or some soap opera or read in a romance novel or something. My God, take the limits off your sexuality, be genuinely open and honest with your sexuality and see what happens. I bet your orgasms would improve tenfold and you wouldnt have issues having them anymore[/quote]

With so many women living without O in vanilla sex  marriages, your post is just as misogynist as anyone who criticizes gay for being born that way. Also, you are overemphasizing the violence in BDSM. Most people who do it also have normal “romantic” sex with me standing on his toes in shower, cuddling, etc.

Role play is meant to spice up sex life sometimes and depart from real life roles. Lots of women in leadership roles enjoy it.

A lot of couples would have benefited from learning more about female body and techniques used in BDSM that are very pleasurable for women

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Agree. Saying that a woman’s sexual preferences are “wrong” because you don’t share them is misogynistic. Don’t yuck someone’s yum. [/quote]

Any criticism of a woman is now misogynistic? LOL.  I will "yuck someone's yum" all day every day, especially when said "yum" plays into a large framework of systemic oppression. [/quote]

Nobody is oppressed calm down [/quote]

You sound truly dumb. [/quote]

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