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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boys were more academically successful back then for a number of reasons. I tried to limit my son’s screen time and encourage books and trips to the library and local cultural events. I refused to let him have an IPAD or phone until he was older- and I got pushback from a lot of people fir that. Whether any of this made a difference, I don’t know (he’s ‘24),  but I think we as a society have normalized dependence on electronics for young kids. It can be even more challenging for boys who aren’t interested in sports- at least sports get kids away from their electronics. [/quote]
+1 we never got an xbox, and DS didn't get a phone until he was 13 because we didn't have a home phone, and we wanted to be able to leave him home while running errands. But, he had very limited screen time in every way.  We saw how he could get easily sucked into computer games and how he got angry playing them.

He's now 19, straight A student in college dual STEM major.  He told me recently that we did a good thing limiting their electronics. [/quote]

These posts are so frustrating! My kid also didn't have video games or a phone well into his teen years. He has very high intelligence. Is earnest and sweet. He is definitely not a straight A student nor in STEM[b], despite his parents probably doing an even better job than you[/b]. Just stop.[/quote]
? how do you know that?[/quote]

So what kind of outlandish statements are allowed? Just the ones saying parents of boys who struggle should have done better?[/quote]
I realize that some kids are more difficult than others, and that there's a nature v nurture at play here, but if you as the parent know that your kid is kind of lazy, shouldn't you light a fire under their butts a bit?

What's the saying: you parent the child you have.

I have two kids: one (the boy) is very conscientious about their grades, always has been. Straight As all throughout, including in college (now a senior).   The other (DD) is not as high achieving, and also has a bit of a SN,  but we make sure that they aren't getting Ds and Fs.  We check DD's grades, and if we notice it slipping, we put pressure on her to do better, and we make sure they have the tools they need to succeed.  DD has a 4.0+ wgpa.

Unless your kid has serious SN, there is no reason why they shouldn't be doing well in school.

FWIW, a few of my male cousins went into the military after HS.  One went to a public ivy after they got out, and the other went to the police academy.  So, I'm not saying all boys need to go to college, but they need to have some goals.    My cousins and I grew up lmc, btw.  So, maybe that's the reason why they had goals, because when you're poor, you don't have the luxury of being lazy and having no goals.  And those who don't have goals end up continuing to live a lmc life.[/quote]

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