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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand why men would be uninterested in their wives when having an affair…but why the kids?! Anyone know?

My own DH is doing this as well. I think he is depressed but I suppose an affair is possible. But mine also went from “superdad” to resentful dad who avoids the kids. [/quote]

Have you ever been in a situation that you don’t want to be in. You made a vow before god, friends and family. To love honor and cherish, even though maybe at done time before you actually walked down the aisle you weren’t sure.

But the train kept moving so you stayed on.  Then the kids came that you thought you wanted and the train kept moving so you stayed on. And then at some point it became hard. You didn’t want to hurt anyone but you didn’t want to be in it anymore.

You started wishing everyone in it with you would just disappear or just stop breathing. Then you could be out if it and no one is hurt and no one judges.

But that doesn’t happen so you find another escape. Someone that you don’t have an obligation to? So when your obligations don’t just go away or stop breathing you just put them in a box and pretend when you can that they don’t exist. Because the alternative is really messy.

2 weeks, turns to two months, to two years. At some point you if you hide long the old life falls away, you start to care less, lives become separate and move on. The old life didn’t die, it didn’t stop breathing, it’s just not a part of your new life.

The one who left isn’t feeling bad about it. They are feeling free. Time heals all even for people who don’t deserve it.

It’s not supposed to happen but it does. [/quote]

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