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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really rather him just leave me.

He probably is having an affair despite denying it.  I just don’t get it.

He can go and be happy with wherever.  I’ll be fine.

But he cannot do this to our kids.  This is the man who would turn down buddy trips to take his kids camping.

Who is this man? [/quote]

And what is your excuse? Why are you waiting for him to make the decision? Your shock can only last so long- it sounds like it's been a month now. What exactly is going on down in the basement? Others have suggested checking out his phone/laptop/you could install a nanny cam in the basement etc etc. You have literally done nothing. Please make a plan. Make sure you collect evidence or protect yourself financially.

At your next therapy appt, state the obvious- that you are worried something organic/physical is going on and you want to rule that out before giving up. But if he isn't going to follow up and rule out issues/he doesn't care, then the next topic is the children- why he doesn't even care that he doesn't care about the kids any longer. What have his responses been with the therapist on that topic? Honestly this would take up all my time in therapy in this case- discussing the impact on the kids of suddenly being ignored and disengaged. If he stays silent and your therapist continues to state the obvious- then you have to make the choice as the only engaged member of the relationship-Then you leave.

Liberate yourself. Stop waiting for liberation.[/quote]

It’s been maybe two months, not years.

[b]Does everyone go straight to spying on your spouse? [/b][/quote]

DP, but who wouldn't? Your spouse becomes a different person overnight, to include ignoring children he is usually very attentive to, and won't talk about why. I wold 100% count an affair as a strong possibility.[/quote]

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