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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP maybe you don't understand how dysfunctional most American families actually are.

We are descendants of slaves, immigrants, slave-holders, robber-barrons, factory workers, war veterans with untreated PTSD, and the list goes on and on.

White women were expected to maintain relationships and do volunteer work for free in their communities or else they would be homeless and on the streets. They put up with a lot to manage and maintain "functional" relationships.

If you think wealthy people are not dysfunctional, think again. [/quote]

But also you maybe don’t understand how functional many Americans are. Functional families, however, go under the radar compared to dysfunctional ones. They are not the subject of TV shows or books. They don’t get written about in newspapers or even show up much in social media.

[b]I do see a divide where these families live their lives without worrying about the rest of the country.[/b][/quote]

A divide based on wealth is not the same as a divide based on being mentally stable and healthy.

Too many supposed functional families later turned out to be one tragedy away from the father setting his entire family on fire and killing them or murdering and stuffing his children into crude oil tanks in the middle of nowhere. [/quote]

[b]Yes but[/b] also many real functional, mentally stable and healthy families are simply invisible in society. They don’t care to be seen or what other people think of them. They’re not over interested in the lives of other people or are [b]over invested in society or politics[/b]. They understand what makes their lives work, and they’re happy to live them.[/quote]

Is this the secret to a functional family? What is it that your functional family understands about how your lives work? Is it not to be over interested or over invested in the lives of people who don't live in your suburb? In your gated community? Where do you draw the line? [/quote]

It’s simpler than that. When our kids come home, hurt because of a friend or teacher or boyfriend, we try to listen and understand their feelings. That’s it, because that works for us.

Similarly, our friends and family just want an ear and a laugh. We just want the same. Do we know what’s going on in people beyond that? Not really.[/quote]

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