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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I come from a functional family.

My mom always kept us away from dysfunctional family members. She said she was “modeling normalcy.” I agree strongly with what she did. My kids don’t need to know about abuse, addiction, alcoholism, cheating, etc.

I had a nanny a few years ago who was great with kids but came from a very bad situation and couldn’t escape it. She gave her car to her brother, then she couldn’t make it to work on time due to bus schedules, then she started always calling in sick. There would be an excuse for everything and she always needed leniency. She told my kids inappropriate stories about how her dad would beat her as a kid. Last straw was that she stole from us to pay bail for a relative. We tried to really help her and we were good employers but we aren’t here to be taken advantage of. [/quote]

I really applaud your mom for doing that. I have had to do that with my family and though it pains me to explain it to me kids, I am grateful that they don’t accept their behavior as normal.

The dysfunctional nanny actually proves something that the OP was trying to articulate. Dysfunction is almost like a disease- functional people notice it faster and try to avoid it as quickly as possible. It’s like gossip. Or a bad reputation.  [/quote]

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