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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t like being a sheep, so I seek out things I actually like. I tend to favor items that are unique, hard to find. Other women seem to admire that. 
Women who feel they have to wear the label everyone else is wearing are just obviously trying to ft in and show off, why not be yourself?[/quote]

I think the issue is that a lot of women don't have a unique self to be. This is who they are -- sheep who will buy and wear what they were told by the powers that be, which in this case are other women who similarly are risk averse and unoriginal.

Let the lemmings run.[/quote]

I love unique jewelry but am otherwise pretty basic in my style.

I don’t think women are “sheep,” exactly.  But having “unique” style takes a pretty high investment of time and energy and experimentation.  Even fairly wealthy women may not be interested in that.  It’s like dressing for work- sometimes I want a uniform type outfit because I want my morning routine to be quick.  For a lot of women that basic look is attractive enough and quick enough to figure out.  I don’t begrudge anyone that.[/quote]

Sure. I have a work uniform. It consists of blouses from Nordstrom, dress pants and skirts and cardigans and blazers etc. Not. Single one of them is from an “It” brand or conspicuously displays a label. Going out of one’s way to wear the coveted items is different than just wanting to simplify. [/quote]

That’s not what I mean by simplify.  I mean that when I travel I go out of my way to find expensive hand made jewelry that catches my eye.  I want it to be seen on me and I love when I get compliments.

Another woman will buy a Cartier bracelet because she wants to be seen and she wants people around her to be aware of her social standing.  She doesn’t want to wander around some market in the third world in 100 degree heat looking for a silver collar, she just wants to look pretty.  She doesn’t want to search for some outfit that is “unique,” she just wants to buy something from lululemon that shows off that she doesn’t skip leg day.

None of this is a problem, none of this says anything particularly important about anyone.[/quote]

I get what you are saying, but it’s not just about looking pretty, it’s about being in style and looking like everyone else.  If it were really just about wanting to look pretty, then she wouldn’t have given all of her Lily Pulitzer dresses away in 2017, and she would still be wearing that Cartier bracelet 10 years from now.  
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Or she'd buy a more practical item than a Cartier bracelet. A basic gold bangle from any jeweler would serve the same purpose in terms of visual style but cost less and, because not such a recognizable designer item, less likely to attract thieves or pickpockets.

You buy the Cartier bracelet because people see it and think "that's the Cartier love bracelet" and know how much it cost you.

Buying this stuff is not about practicality or just having an easy uniform. I could put together a complete wardrobe of good quality basics including a couple bags, a full suite of jewelry, and shoes, for about 5-8k, or the cost of a single Cartier bracelet. If you have a bit of money, you can pay someone like me to do this for you and have a stylish wardrobe that makes dressing super easy. But I wouldn't include any of these items because they are all poorly priced for what they are and their recognizability actually makes them less practical.[/quote]

I don’t know.  It isn’t just about money.  You could have a much more expensive wardrobe and still not be wearing the right thing.  You could even have all of the right bracelets and clothes and still wear them wrong.

There is more to this look than just being able to afford it.  
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