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[quote=Anonymous]There is just a fundamental disconnect here, and neither side is really wrong. Some think that an unknowing betrayed spouse is behind harmed by being told of an affair, and some think the betrayed spouse is already being harmed by the affair and has a right to know in order to exercise agency over their life. Each position has some truth to it. My own personal view is that if you learn your spouse is cheating on you, that is your information to do with as you see fit, including disclosing. MYOB does not apply; the affair IS your business. Disclosure can be done for good reasons or bad reasons, and can have good or bad consequences, like any other act. I understand where those who say “what the betrayed spouse doesn’t know isn’t hurting them and indeed many would not want to know” are coming from, but I disagree. I wouldn’t want to live a lie and would tell for that reason, absent some reason to know the disclosure would be unwelcome or cause harm. [/quote]
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