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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't dump your trauma on a college student.

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My freshmen college roommate and her brother (upperclassmen) were destroyed when something like this happened to them.  They had a very hard time with it. They said they felt like there entire childhood was a lie. They were very depressed and also so angry at their dad.  His timing is awful.  [b]There is a misconception kids are older it won’t matter/-/but college kids need that safety and security net at home with so much change.[/b][/quote]

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Yeah. Kid needs to be watched after this news.  A lot of mental health issues in campuses these days and getting this type of news - out of the blue— can be the impetus for an episode.  Kids like a secure home base.  [/quote]

OP - please, read this above said! I’m telling this as a mother who made a mistake and dumped my trauma on my only child in a similar situation
My DS fell very depressed at 17-18, and started abusing substances. First year in college he was diagnosed with episodes of suicide idealization. Your jerk husband is not worth placing your kid under such risk. Be as gentle as you can and yes, just lie and say it’s totally amicable and you just grew apart. Think of your child’s best interests now. Young men  in particular are depression prone [/quote]

+100 sane when my wife’s affair was discovered [/quote]

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