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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my kids were little I was at a gathering of family friends. We all had little kids the same age, but DH and I were the only dual income couple. I overheard the other dads congratulating themselves that they "didn't have to have a stranger raise their kids." At another point my dear friend was feeling restless as her kids got a little older and wished she could work again. I pointed out that she could if she wanted to, that day care is an option (my kid was in day care). She vehemently replied "It isn't for me."

Was I hurt by those things? Yes. My kids are in highschool, and clearly it is still stings.

And yet these friendships endure, and our kids are all doing well. You can't tell which had a parent at home and which didn't. Its just that when kids are little our emotions are so tender, and each decision feels like it can make or break our kids. Compassion for each other helps.

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If two people are feeling insecure and unsure, it’s so hard to talk about these things. If you were the only one in the group with kids in daycare, it must have felt odd. And she’s couldn’t talk to you about her restlessness without hurting you even though she added the caveat that daycare was not an option “for her.”

But I’m glad you weathered through even if you remember it.[/quote]

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