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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left my xH for my AP. I’m still with AP, but overall I’m just as unhappy as I was with xH.

One thing I learned is that no matter who you are with, there will be problems. There is no perfect person where everything will be perfect with them. You just trade one set of problems for another.

Same with the benefits. There are tradeoffs. xH was far more financially stable and had more financial prospects. AP (current H) is sexier and easier to get him to do what I want. Neither really make me happy. I’ve learned that happiness has to come from within you. [/quote]

I did not leave H for AP but I completely agree with this.[/quote]

Yup. My mom stayed with her AP and he has an entirely different set of problems than my dad does, but overall no less severe. So she's still just as unhappy and it's way less convenient for everyone else. In particular, his financial problems, might seem like not a big deal in your 40s but it sure is a very big deal in your 80s.[/quote]

This is why it is known: cheating is about what’s wrong inside an individual.  The marriage, the spouse, etc have zero to do with it.  Cheaters will continue to blame everyone else for their unhappiness and change relationships, houses, move, etc…but they are still the same miserable individuals on the inside. Rotten in their core. [/quote]

It is really not that simple. [/quote]

It really is, though. All cheaters are low-integrity, intellectually lazy, morally-bankrupt people. The rest is just a set of lies you tell to try to justify your nonsense.[/quote]
Actually, the truth is that cheaters are all around you. Some of your family, friends, community members have committed adultery. They just don't talk about it. Just like you don't hear from every third woman you meet that she's had an abortion. It's a normal human behavior. It's not a good one, but it would probably rock your black and white world to know that people you admire and respect have made mistakes too.[/quote]

No, you absolute trashcan of a human, it isn't "a normal human behavior". There are rapists and murderers around me, and that's the better analogy: harmful people with deep pathology that prevents them from acting like decent humans. Equating this to abortion is just nonsensical rhetoric. And cheating isn't "a mistake": it's a fscking choice. It's not an oops; you plan that, think about it, and execute.

But thanks for reinforcing PPs point that y'all are committed to the lies you tell yourselves to excuse your garbage behavior.[/quote]
I’m PP and I haven’t cheated. I have been cheated on and I have friends and family who have cheated. 
If half the population does it, it is, in fact, “normal.” Whereas far less than 1%  of the population commits murder. And 30% of women have an abortion. Sorry for whatever happened to you, but [b]you don’t sound like you are able to bring a rational voice to this thread.[/b] [/quote]

Imagine rationalizing cheating, and being smug to people whose basic human decency precludes them from participating in that mess.

No, I will never "normalize" cheating. Just because so many of you cheat doesn't make it normal. It makes cheaters jerks.

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You’re right. Cheating is horrific and akin to murder.  Cheaters should be given the electric chair.

There. Is that what you want?[/quote]

How did you get this from someone saying cheaters are jerks? You think people refer to murderers as merely "jerks"? Frankly, the PP is right: You people are such jerks on top of having no shame.[/quote]

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