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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most women would feel the same way he does if their husbands made the same comments you did. You knew he was insecure about it and you twisted the knife. Wanting a spouse to get healthier is different from you disgust me.

Sounds like he has always struggled with his weight so you knew he would struggle when you married him.

No one is motivated in a healthy direction by body shaming. I am not sure what you want now. If he disgusts you so much, divorce him. You can probably get a lot of cash out of the divorce if he is a doctor and then you can find yourself some fit guy who meets your expectations for a partner.[/quote]

This is absolutely correct. I have seen my stepmother body shame my dad for the better part of 20 years.  He then gets upset snd reacts by eating and drinking more.

Everyone wants to be loved and accepted.  If you focus on positive things, a lot of times you get ancillary improvements.  Just focus on something positive- that your husband is smart, a good father, etc.  Do not nitpick about the weight. Maybe once be feels less stress he will lose a few pounds. But shaming into skinniness is nor going to work.

Also, what if he tells you to go fly a kite. People can and do get sick of emotional conflict and they will leave.[/quote]

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