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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So funny that a bunch of women at a cookout don’t understand why mom would be in a pool with her child instead of ignoring their children, drinking, gossiping.[/quote]

I had a similar situation with some families over for dinner. There was a dad with kids who I really liked who I met at the playground so I invited them. This was my first time meeting the mom. She did not eat or drink anything, did not really even greet anyone other than a broad "Hi", and spent the whole time playing water guns with the large group of kids (no pool). 
I'll be honest, it did bother me. It would have been polite to have something to eat and exchange 5 or 10 minutes of conversation with the people who are hosting you. I was really hoping to make friends with this lady since our kids got along so well. And since this is anonymous I'll admit that this lady was 10/10 model gorgeous so there was an element of feeling like she thought she was better than me. 
There is a phenomenon where parents are so hyperfocused on their kids that they completely forget how to socialize with adults. You see this all the time at the playground where parents are narrating their kids' activities and can't be bothered to even make eye contact with their peers. Your children will grow up and have their own social lives. Most of us would like to have adult friends. I know everyone on DCUM has SOOOO many friends and no time for more but many of us do not and are trying actively to make them.[/quote]

But what happened when you, as the host, approached her for conversation? It goes both ways, and you left that part out. [/quote]

I said something like "wow you're a way more fun mom than I am! Do you want something to eat? We have etc." "No, I'm good."
I'm shy too! I wouldn't be inviting people over if I wasn't desperate for friends.[/quote]

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