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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, I'll be honest, I'm on OP's side. At the same time I don't really buy the notion some of you are selling that her BF is a bad person. Sounds like he wanted to treat her in the early days of dating and figured she'd eventually chip in more but OP took his words at face value and didn't (again, I'm on her side, I wouldn't either). In the grand scheme of things, this is harmless.

What is harmful is the passive aggressive stuff and the telling you "next round is on you." He didn't do that with the $200 dinner you mentioned, did he, OP? Because I'll be honest, if he did, THAT is shitty - $200 is a lot to spring on someone that they're paying for right then and there, and what if you had just paid a big bill that afternoon or something? Idk, I think the "next round is on you" stuff is the shittiest thing he's done.

That being said why don't you stop beating around the bush (and he needs to stop being PA) and just talk to him.[/quote]

I just posted above that I have a friend who orders more expensive items when she knows I am paying. If op is ordering items for a $200 items, her expectation for the guy to pay could be a turn off to her boyfriend. Sure, the first few dates or months but it can get annoying for a guy too. I’m a woman.

[b]When Dh and I started dating, he always paid. About a year in, he seemed to initiate dates less.[/b] I brought it up and he said it was getting expensive. He isn’t passive aggressive. I started buying more take out and we stayed in more. We eventually got married.[/quote]
They haven't even been dating a year. [/quote]

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