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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Research has shown that oral self comfort, whether by pacifier, finger or thumb sucking, is actually a good thing. It is normal. It is necessary. It begins in the womb. It helps reduce stress and tension and improves focus and concentration. It is a natural way to self-regulate.
https://developlearngrow.com/oral-sensory-activities/

It almost never has negative implications before age 4 (where dental issues may start in some). Dentists may disagree, but do you hope for braces (which most will need anyway) or a psychiatrist and anti-anxiety meds? Even adults use oral means of self soothing, but in more subtle ways.[/quote]

Makes sense.  My daughter who had her pacifier at all times until 4 years old was the calmest most chill baby.   She was never irritable, never crying, she was satisfied just being with the group.    She didn’t bring it to preschool but she never had any problems.  [/quote]

I bet this is true. My daughter is the most anxious, worst-sleeping child on earth. She rejected the pacifier at 2 months and never replaced it with another method of self soothing, so she is never soothed. I wish she still took a pacifier at 3![/quote]

It's just so kid dependent. DD liked the pacifier but struggled with it for some reason -- it fell out constantly and then she'd instantly be upset and we weaned her off of it primarily because the only way to get it to work was to literally stand there holding it in her mouth and at that point why not just pick her up. She is a kind of anxious kid generally (which I don't think is related to the pacifier at all -- I think it's kind of how her mind works). But I know kids who never took a pacifier who are super chill and others who had them until late who are also chill.

It's just not relevant really. And the main argument against pacifiers is the dental thing but my kid stopped using a pacifier well before any teeth came in and her baby teeth were all totally street but her adult teeth are crooked.

I guess what I'm saying as a mom of an older kid is that a pacifier at 3 or 4 is really not a big deal and ultimately probably will have no bearing on your kid. Just -- who cares.[/quote]

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