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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It astounds me how so few posters consider or acknowledge the experience for an infant or toddler—what their day to day is like. It’s a completely different childhood when you can avoid both parents working long hours with maybe 4 months of leave total. Anything that can be done to stagger or extend leaves, to work part time, etc. will improve your child’s quality of life immensely. [/quote]

My kids liked day care. It was warm and lovely and the kids were very well taken care of. It sucked for me to be managing being a new mother, pumping, and working, but they were fine. And now that they're older, I have a lot more flexibility in my hours because of the work I put in then. So it's not that I haven't considered my kids' experience, I just don't agree with this. [/quote]

DP.  My kids didn’t like daycare and didn’t thrive there and I still worked because they are not the only people on the planet, and they are still incredibly privileged.  
I was in a small town where I was the only doctor in my specialty.  I wasn’t going to SAH in order to give them some idyllic toddlerhood. My kids are a little neurotic, but they are fine, and a few people lived that might have died a lot sooner.  I feel like it was a good trade.

The idea that we need to give over privileged children even more time and attention is ridiculous. [/quote]

It’s so nuts. [b]This notion that kids who go to daycare or have babysitters are in any way missing out is insane. [/b]I mainly work from home and have hours and hours a day with my kids. They just do a sport or a class after school. And they’re great kids!

And bc I work they will have fully funded 529s, they can go to camp, they can travel to Europe and we will be able to help them with down payment on first home.

[b]Kids generally after the age of 7 desperately start to want to see less of their parents so silly to give up your whole life and comp for someone who will pull away in a way that’s developmentally appropriate after just a few years[/b] [/quote]

Kids in daycare do have increased stress levels. It’s all a balance, and there obviously good reasons why parents work, but there can be impacts to kids that are not measurable. The first 3 years impact life forever.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2946618/

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There are a lot of things that impact children’s lives.  If your work helps children who are disadvantaged or born into poverty in any way, the advantages to those kids far outweigh the slightly increased cortisol levels of the typical DCUM seriously advantaged children.  [/quote]

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