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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a 4.5 year-old and a baby just over 1. Baby in full day daycare and the older one has done DCPS PreK + aftercare for the past two years which he loved. Now in summer camp + aftercare, though he deeply misses all his school friends (who scatter to the wind during the summer).

Two kids is wild. One of us is home by 545 with the kids, dinner, play, bath time, etc. Our oldest kid won't go to bed at 715pm anymore and is stretching out bed time + longer daylight hours. We don't get a free moment until 9pm; it's killing us. Have a long list of babysitters and we rotate through them, it's been nice to get out of the house in the evening once the baby is down for the night.

Strongly considering an au pair. We can afford it ($250K x 2 jobs). Would be super helpful for getting kids ready in the AM, picking up our oldest kid from school/camp, packing the lunch box, etc. [/quote]

Get a real nanny. At your income you can afford it and sounds like you really need the help[/quote]

Why get a "real nanny"? I'd need to hire a top-notch nanny for her to cover everything my baby does in his Montessori daycare (with instructors who have college degrees). So probably at least $70K after-tax to get a high quality nanny. Doesn't seem worth it.

Literally only need an extra set of hands for 1 hour in the morning and 3 hours in the evening. Plus have an au pair do sporadic kid stuff - laundry, lunch boxes, straightening up their rooms - throughout the week. I don't think an au pair would even hit 40 hours with us in a week. [/quote]

Getting a real nanny is 100% worth it. I wouldn't do it in place of a Montessori school. As a working mom, having assistance with laundry, dishes, lunch boxes, meal prep, and transportation is incredibly beneficial. I pay a nanny an above-market rate for a guaranteed 20 hours a week. While costly, it makes a significant difference in managing my job, running our household effectively, finding time to exercise, and enabling my kids to participate in competitive sports that prepare them to play in high school.[/quote]

So you have a part-time Alice.

That definitely is the way to do it, but how much do you pay for this above market staff? I’m gonna guess it’s probably close to 50,000 right? Because going part time for them also means less ability to take another job, it’s not like they can cover two kids after school, or there’s a baby who only needs care from the morning. [/quote]

You're in the ballpark on cost. Our nanny is happy with the arrangement; she's single, and her child is out of the house, so the amount we pay is enough. She uses her mornings for her hobbies and her own housework and occasionally takes other jobs.  [/quote]

You must live in the exurbs, because her in suburbs a former mom would not be looking for part time work like this. They would have either a breadwinner or a real job.

How is this woman going to retire?[/quote]

She plans to move back to her home country.  She's not American and doesn't want to work 40 hours a week.  We don't live in the exurbs.  [/quote]

As soon as I posted I knew you were paying someone under the table who was not planning to stay in America. That’s why you can get this deal. [/quote]

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